 Re: Broken Agreements
For me this would be a trust and respect issue. You trusted when you made the agreements that he would adhere to them and he broke the agreement breaking trust. How could you trust what he was going to do if he didn't adhere to the rules the first time and then made excuses how it wasn't his fault (being drunk) and how he wants to be the ones to make the rules anyway. If he respected you he wouldn't have done any of this
You both definitely need to take a step back and work on communication, understanding (on his part), respect (again on his part) and rebuild the trust. I wouldn't go back into swinging until he respects the boundaries, does not resent them or you for putting them in place... and understands this is something you're doing for each other, not just him.
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