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Dave_kat · 11-16-2004, 12:05 PM

Dave here, and I've got a couple of questions about this, as perhaps I'm not understanding your set rules. They seem to me already impossible to keep, just from an admittedly male point of view.

1. always wear a condom.. no issues there, wouldn't do it any other way
2. always same room, not so much of an issue, the majority of this lifestyle is about seeing the other person enjoy the happenings.
3. Never finish with the other person. Do you mean this as no ending up as two couples sleeping in different beds with the other's spouse, or is this related to orgasm, as in for him not to be able to have an orgasm (or two) without it being with you? When in a 3some situation, I can certainly understand, but when you come to full swing, that may not always be possible and might even seem rude to require him to disengage with her to come over to you to finish off. Part of the lifestyle is enjoying the happiness of the other and partaking in their enjoyment I would think that you as the female would enjoy one or several orgasms while engaging in intercourse (Personally I'd feel terrible if I wasn't able to get you to that point) and I'd think that you'd certainly be able to continue to have more as the party continues. It might take a bit of time to recharge, but after an event/playtime, I'm always back in kat's arms seeking more.

4. No kissing. I can somewhat understand that, but I question something as well. For both myself and kat, kissing is the beginning of arousal. A bit of intimacy like necking while talking and gradually building to the excitement of the whole evening. While kissing your S/O is certainly good as part of the build-up, kissing also let's the other party involved get a feel for things, for example, aggressiveness, response to things.

Now his response about being drunk I personally think was BS, and letting you go off into a room on your own, big mistake as well.. Truthfully though, if it was the way he wanted to do it, then you both need to sit down and review what happened, where things went wrong, and figure out if there are different viewpoints on what the rules mean, or even what else caused the whole situation

11-16-2004, 12:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
Dave_kat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 291 Location: Savannah, Ga Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Dave_kat	Re: Broken Agreements Dave here, and I've got a couple of questions about this, as perhaps I'm not understanding your set rules. They seem to me already impossible to keep, just from an admittedly male point of view. 1. always wear a condom.. no issues there, wouldn't do it any other way 2. always same room, not so much of an issue, the majority of this lifestyle is about seeing the other person enjoy the happenings. 3. Never finish with the other person. Do you mean this as no ending up as two couples sleeping in different beds with the other's spouse, or is this related to orgasm, as in for him not to be able to have an orgasm (or two) without it being with you? When in a 3some situation, I can certainly understand, but when you come to full swing, that may not always be possible and might even seem rude to require him to disengage with her to come over to you to finish off. Part of the lifestyle is enjoying the happiness of the other and partaking in their enjoyment I would think that you as the female would enjoy one or several orgasms while engaging in intercourse (Personally I'd feel terrible if I wasn't able to get you to that point) and I'd think that you'd certainly be able to continue to have more as the party continues. It might take a bit of time to recharge, but after an event/playtime, I'm always back in kat's arms seeking more. 4. No kissing. I can somewhat understand that, but I question something as well. For both myself and kat, kissing is the beginning of arousal. A bit of intimacy like necking while talking and gradually building to the excitement of the whole evening. While kissing your S/O is certainly good as part of the build-up, kissing also let's the other party involved get a feel for things, for example, aggressiveness, response to things. Now his response about being drunk I personally think was BS, and letting you go off into a room on your own, big mistake as well.. Truthfully though, if it was the way he wanted to do it, then you both need to sit down and review what happened, where things went wrong, and figure out if there are different viewpoints on what the rules mean, or even what else caused the whole situation
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