Hello all,
My wife and I (married 6 years) are here to explore and discover if swinging is right for us. At this point, I would say that I feel more comfortable with the idea of swinging, than she does because of the common fears (jealousy, insecurity, self-worth, etc.)
The interest mainly started in me early in our relationship. It started as bedroom talk, and I realized how hot it made me to think about her getting pounded from another guy while sucking me, me pounding her while she sucks another guy, DPing her, that kind of thing. The thought of it makes her very hot, but naturally she has fears to actually do it. She wasn't so into the idea at first, but she's warming up to it.
From talking with friends of mine, I think I am of the minority of husbands who desire MFM, much moreso than FMF. Don't get me wrong, I think FMF would be fun too, but it doesn't get my engine revving quite as high!
I would like to discuss with couples that feel similar to us, and especially experienced couples that started where we are, and how to overcome these fears she's having, and possibly discover and deal with fears I'm unaware of (perhaps in myself). I would love to hear from all couples, husbands, and wives who have dealt with this.
Cheers,
H & J