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Originally Posted by jeff n nikki the one question i would like to ask is.........what dont you like about swinging? you didnt mention that. are you serious that he is all youll ever need or want sexually? |
***I'm now registered, the original unregistered . . .***
This is a fair question- I didn't think to answer it before. What I don't like about the "Swinging" I've experienced is that even my pleasure is for my husband's pleasure. If I were to say what I would like sexually (or who) other than my husband, it'd be men, not making out with women for my husband's viewing enjoyment. It's not fair because I didn't think my husband would care to see me doing the same things that he is asking to do.
What I see in swinging is a give and take in exploration and sexuality, and so I think it's fair to say that if I've been the only one giving, then it's not a good arrangement. Based on the hurt I've experienced so far, I'm not willing to put myself out on a limb and try to balance the swinging scale to change a dynamic from which I am not benefiting. I really don't care much about the social norm- I care that I am getting the raw end of the physical and emotional deal!
soapbox That being said, I don't see why I should be expected to buck up and take it when we are only at the beginning of our lives together (married 2 yrs). I don't think I'm closed minded about it- hell, I 've given it a shot, which is more than many wives would do! I'm not even trying to pass judgement on his feelings and choices- I'm just trying to find out if I'm being unreasonable in feeling that I'm getting the short end of the stick.