[DBL D]

I've said it before, and these posts (especially the early ones) just exemplify my angle on it; you can't do this for your SO.

You may be able to consider it; you may be able to fantasize about it; you may be able to tell your "counselor" about it; but you surely will not be comfortable "Doing It"!

I've also said that if Fem D wanted to quit (or I did), we would--but our marriage wouldn't be threatened. I am not sure she totally feels this way about it. She may also believe that while she may be able to go through with the being with other people part of it, she feels that if I wasn't able to have swinging in my life, her life would be less than happy. I hold to the feeling, if not argument, that she has to want to do it for herself. That's the only thing that will make me happy. Seeing her realize her fantasies, and her enjoying the journey.

I feel very disheartened when I hear about a human being acting the way your hubby is to the person who should know him the best and should love him the most.

Mlae D