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JandL · 11-12-2004, 01:02 AM

Anytime I hear someone mention divorce I always wonder, why don't they try to salvage it through marriage counselling. At the worst it doesn't work and you can talk about the D-Word. But if it does I think you'd find that you will communicate to eachother better.

But remember, that councelling is never for one person, but the couple.

And I am not trying to imply that it's your intentional fault but sometimes when someone doesn't catch the ball it's because it wasn't thrown correctly.

So maybe a councellor will tell him to lax up, maybe he will tell you that you need to be more vocal or communicate in a more clear or effective manner. What I am trying to say is that a person should never go to councelling thinking only the other needs to change, or nothing will. Chances are you both need to improve for your relationship to improve.

I think your heart was in the right place for trying it out, but perhaps it wasn't the best way to go.

I hope my 2 cents helps.

11-12-2004, 01:02 AM	#11 (permalink)
JandL Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 31 Location: southern IN Status: couple	Re: He says yes, I say no Anytime I hear someone mention divorce I always wonder, why don't they try to salvage it through marriage counselling. At the worst it doesn't work and you can talk about the D-Word. But if it does I think you'd find that you will communicate to eachother better. But remember, that councelling is never for one person, but the couple. And I am not trying to imply that it's your intentional fault but sometimes when someone doesn't catch the ball it's because it wasn't thrown correctly. So maybe a councellor will tell him to lax up, maybe he will tell you that you need to be more vocal or communicate in a more clear or effective manner. What I am trying to say is that a person should never go to councelling thinking only the other needs to change, or nothing will. Chances are you both need to improve for your relationship to improve. I think your heart was in the right place for trying it out, but perhaps it wasn't the best way to go. I hope my 2 cents helps.