The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Purgatory in swinging.... Swinging in your 30s

MiCpl · 05-06-2002, 02:53 PM

I think you have way overgeneralized your statements here. I find it odd that very few people took offense to your post, and those very people who should have were more often agreeing with you.

Is it us or is there two very distinctive groups in swingning? There is the under 30, very thin and perfect body portion. Then there is the over 40 portion with personalities and bodies that are all over the map.

My husband and I fall in an odd place. I am under 30 and far from thin (although not qualifying for BBW status yet either), and he is mid-30's and also not thin.

I swear if I hear one more couple that is over 40 say..."we are not too old for you, we can go for hours!" I am going to send them an application for an AARP card.

You are in your 30's what's so wrong with someone who is 40 or even mid-40's. They are still too young to be your parents at that point. A few years from now when you are 40, you may be one of those very 40+ year olds emailing people in their 30's not understanding why they don't want to swing with YOU.

And of course the reciprical is true as well. We are both tired of people looking at our pics that are younger and have had no children wondering why we dont look like Bally's health club adds. Is there no in between? Does anyone else out there feel this way?

Obviously from the other posts there are plenty of people who feel the same way you do to an extent, but even at that they aren't going to fit in YOUR "niche" because they are either too young or too old. How do you expect to find good playmates when you narrow the field so much before even giving someone a chance?

S (of S&J)

05-06-2002, 02:53 PM	#10 (permalink)
MiCpl Registered User Join Date: Jun 2000 Posts: 106 Location: MI	I think you have way overgeneralized your statements here. I find it odd that very few people took offense to your post, and those very people who should have were more often agreeing with you. Is it us or is there two very distinctive groups in swingning? There is the under 30, very thin and perfect body portion. Then there is the over 40 portion with personalities and bodies that are all over the map. My husband and I fall in an odd place. I am under 30 and far from thin (although not qualifying for BBW status yet either), and he is mid-30's and also not thin. I swear if I hear one more couple that is over 40 say..."we are not too old for you, we can go for hours!" I am going to send them an application for an AARP card. You are in your 30's what's so wrong with someone who is 40 or even mid-40's. They are still too young to be your parents at that point. A few years from now when you are 40, you may be one of those very 40+ year olds emailing people in their 30's not understanding why they don't want to swing with YOU. And of course the reciprical is true as well. We are both tired of people looking at our pics that are younger and have had no children wondering why we dont look like Bally's health club adds. Is there no in between? Does anyone else out there feel this way? Obviously from the other posts there are plenty of people who feel the same way you do to an extent, but even at that they aren't going to fit in YOUR "niche" because they are either too young or too old. How do you expect to find good playmates when you narrow the field so much before even giving someone a chance? S (of S&J)