From one central Ohio couple to another - the best thing to do is just wander around...
We met a couple a few weeks ago who clung to their tall table like it was a life preserver. It was their second visit and they still hadn't had anyone approach them - then again, they hadn't moved form their table in either visit. We had been strolling around and stopped. I don't remember what made us stop - but we did... We were quickly in a great conversation with a great couple.
We talked about work, how we became interested in the lifestyle and of course we flirted... It was acutally pretty easy...
They were wonderful, attractive and funny - but I think they had the same type of insecurities that you are describing. In fact, when we asked them about playing, the wife told us, "sure - unless you find someone better."
I was kind of floored. The way I see it - I have great taste in playmates - which is exactly why I was talking to her. And I was flattered that she was talking back to me
My suggestion is just go to play... Play pool, play darts, play on the dance floor... Just have fun. You will talk to people just by moving around. We are the type of people who can sit still for about ten minutes before we have to move - but we have never been hit on during that ten minutes of sitting still. It just doesn't happen. Put yourself in the traffic flow - let conversations happen with everyone you bump into - and when a couple strikes you as "interesting", take mustangs excellent advice and ask.
Spoomonkey