And this is the reason why I love this board sooo much. If you look around you see such diversity in the posts here, it is amazing. But that is what I love about being in this lifestyle.....some people are only for couples, others single males, and some single females.
My hubby and I started out just adding a single male friend to the mix, and we still do to this day. We love that arrangement, it works best for us, and I have not pressured him to decide to be with another woman. Because for him, I am also his "dream girl" and in the end he gets to be with me, and that is all he really wants.
My suggestion is to talk and talk to your SO and decide what is best for you....I see nothing wrong with taking things slowly...maybe even taking one baby step at a time so you can get used to the idea of him being with another woman. It might help you if this other woman is a friend or a swinger "girlfriend" for you....it may eliminate some of the fear that she would take him away from you. (IF that is an issue at all).
Best of luck to you and keep talking, this IS the key to your success!
