I think I detect a double standard here. You seem to resent the younger, fit swingers who are not attracted to you because of your age and/or fitness level; yet you insultingly dismiss all 40+ couples as ready for AARP and/or the farm scale. You suffer from the Groucho Marx complex. He famously proclaimed, "I would never join a club that would accept me as a member."
If you only want to swing with younger hard bodies, you will probably have to acquire hard bodies yourselves to improve your odds. Otherwise, just be as open minded toward other couples as you want them to be with you, and you will have no problem attracting playmates.
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