The Swingers Board - View Single Post - I want to have sex with others but can't handle watching him do it

SexhoundDog · 11-10-2004, 10:17 AM

I totally agree with Spoo, who thinks his points out well and is also a very eloquent monkey, as well as 20ish couple. Others are offering their opinions, which is what this board is all about , but the first question here is "who initiated the swing experience?" If it was hubby who wanted to have you play, then he shouldn't necessarily feel it will be reciprocal on your part to let him play. It would have probably been good if you'd have had this conversation first, letting him know that you'd be OK having a man but not so keen on the idea of him having a woman. If that stopped it dead in its track, so be it.
As I've also noticed, there are many more ads looking for a single female and it doesn't mention the wife being bi. I have to wonder if these women are just tagging along for husband's wishes, but it does seem a bit of a double standard in those cases to me. I read and hear more instances where the guy thinks he can play, but doesn't want the little lady too. So I'm a little surprised to see a few of you calling Unregistered a bit selfish. None of us were there, so none of us know what discussions they've had.
However, my advice is definitely to step back and thoroughly discuss this with hubby. As it could become an issue, you may have to be prepared to step back and give up having guys or he probably will toss it right back at you on the fairness issue of him not having women. But, if he was using you as bait and letting you have other guys so he could have other women, he didn't do it right either. But either way, you'd best stop until you've got it cleared up.

11-10-2004, 10:17 AM	#11 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Re: Willing to do it, but dont want him to I totally agree with Spoo, who thinks his points out well and is also a very eloquent monkey, as well as 20ish couple. Others are offering their opinions, which is what this board is all about , but the first question here is "who initiated the swing experience?" If it was hubby who wanted to have you play, then he shouldn't necessarily feel it will be reciprocal on your part to let him play. It would have probably been good if you'd have had this conversation first, letting him know that you'd be OK having a man but not so keen on the idea of him having a woman. If that stopped it dead in its track, so be it. As I've also noticed, there are many more ads looking for a single female and it doesn't mention the wife being bi. I have to wonder if these women are just tagging along for husband's wishes, but it does seem a bit of a double standard in those cases to me. I read and hear more instances where the guy thinks he can play, but doesn't want the little lady too. So I'm a little surprised to see a few of you calling Unregistered a bit selfish. None of us were there, so none of us know what discussions they've had. However, my advice is definitely to step back and thoroughly discuss this with hubby. As it could become an issue, you may have to be prepared to step back and give up having guys or he probably will toss it right back at you on the fairness issue of him not having women. But, if he was using you as bait and letting you have other guys so he could have other women, he didn't do it right either. But either way, you'd best stop until you've got it cleared up.