Whoa...
Come on guys - let's give this lady the benefit of the doubt. It isn't totally uncommon for one spouse or the other to be uncomfortable with their SO getting jiggy with it... When we started playing, I was very turned on by the idea of Mrs Spoomonkey playing with others - but she was not so comfortable with the idea of me playing. It was a hurdle we had to jump over. A lot of conversation and patience on both of our parts was neccessary for us to get over it.
Or - it could be that the husband really gets off on just watching. This whole set up may be exactly what they are looking for. The lifestyle is exactly what the individual couple wants it to be. Heck, I see "we are only looking for single women" all over the internet.
As an unregistered user, it is hard to know if you are going to come back and read these responses - or even if you are serious - but for the sake of those who are in your situation - talk to your husband; find out what he is wanting from the lifestyle. If he wants to play with a woman, then you need to decide if you can handle it. If you can't, tell him. The lifestyle isn't for everyone.
But - then you will need to discuss whether or not it is really right for you guys to continue playing with single men. We play across the whole spectrum, but single guys can be a great experience. I get a real charge out of Mrs Spoo being the center of attention. I could survive just fine in the lifestyle if this was all that she could handle - because I still get to play with my dream girl
Decide what the two of you want - if it is something obtainable, go for it. If it isn't, back slowly away... But, you may just surprise yourself - as my wife did - and actually enjoy watching your husband with another woman...
Spoomonkey