The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Want to try DP, but not with hubby in my ass

Dr Jekyll · 11-05-2004, 05:39 AM

I agree with the general consensus from the postings above.

If I was your hubby I'd have never been ok with it... Is very difficult to accept that your partner will do something with someone else but not you. We had situations like that and everytime one of us felt uneasy. Uneasy is a very bad place in swinging... It means you're uncomfortable and not ready to progress to that level.

In your defense I can see how it's something you really want, and it's difficult to accept that we cannot have something, even though all that stands between you and the experience is your SO's consent. But obviously if you really love and cherish them, you'd do anything not to hurt them, and pressuring someone into something they don't want is the best way to hurt...

I'd suggest you practice stretching etc so that your SO can see you're really making an effort to accommodate him. It may even lead to him becoming more accepting of a DP with another man taking you anally earlier even if he hasn't had you... As long as he knows he'll be able to later on...

IMPORTANT, don't make promises you don't intend to keep. There is no better way to make him feel abused.

11-05-2004, 05:39 AM	#13 (permalink)
Dr Jekyll Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 113 Location: South-Africa Status: M. Male	Re: Want to try DP, but not with hubby in my ass I agree with the general consensus from the postings above. If I was your hubby I'd have never been ok with it... Is very difficult to accept that your partner will do something with someone else but not you. We had situations like that and everytime one of us felt uneasy. Uneasy is a very bad place in swinging... It means you're uncomfortable and not ready to progress to that level. In your defense I can see how it's something you really want, and it's difficult to accept that we cannot have something, even though all that stands between you and the experience is your SO's consent. But obviously if you really love and cherish them, you'd do anything not to hurt them, and pressuring someone into something they don't want is the best way to hurt... I'd suggest you practice stretching etc so that your SO can see you're really making an effort to accommodate him. It may even lead to him becoming more accepting of a DP with another man taking you anally earlier even if he hasn't had you... As long as he knows he'll be able to later on... IMPORTANT, don't make promises you don't intend to keep. There is no better way to make him feel abused.