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Hellboy · 11-04-2004, 10:35 PM

I got cut off before I finished that last post. We bought our first vibrator about hmmmm..... actually about 6 months ago, but she was 7 months pregnant, so it got put away before we had much chance to use it. She has always maintained she 'never' masturbates ("I don't need too") knowing full well I do, but since she got the toy she has "once or twice" Really hot to hand it over and lay back to watch.........I think its pretty eveident that she fears what I will think...see...She is very attractive and I lack self confidence at times. So she is afraid to say "I fantasize about XYZ....because she is afraid I will think "I'm not good enough or some such.. . . . And I used to kinda be that way. She is 35 and me 29.... when we ment, 27/21 and she had been around the block a little more than I have in terms of raw numbers. And I let out that it bothered me a little because a girl I dated in college thought life was long, never ending porno movie. The problem is, she had no substance, no ambition where my wife is a magnificant woman. But I was gun shy. So while she felt used and abused by previous men in her life, I felt like I didn't want some one who's life revolved around sex. But it was flawed association on my part (to an extent) in that my ex's life centered on pleasing her desires(whether sexual, chemical, or otherwise) Liberal morality between the sheets was just a by product, or the substance she tried to use to fill the gaping hole in her soul.

Okay, so my wife met me, a safe guy who treated her like a queen and we lived happily ever after. She may or may not have fantasies, but she has kept them down, deep down.....I have seen some pics of her ex's in old scrap books and I have my charms but they are very attractive men. I can kick all their asses with my eyes closed, but....(just kidding...I really can, but I wanted to see if you were paying attention)

SO.....We have a lot of issues to work through to get to a point where we can start thinking about swinging. They are issues that are not important otherwise and I stress again, we have a magnificant relationship. All that being said (and its alot) I appreciate the friendly encouragement and more than that, I enjoy the frank and friendly atmosphere in here......

11-04-2004, 10:35 PM	#8 (permalink)
Hellboy Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 59 Location: Texas Status: Couple	Re: This is interesting..... I got cut off before I finished that last post. We bought our first vibrator about hmmmm..... actually about 6 months ago, but she was 7 months pregnant, so it got put away before we had much chance to use it. She has always maintained she 'never' masturbates ("I don't need too") knowing full well I do, but since she got the toy she has "once or twice" Really hot to hand it over and lay back to watch.........I think its pretty eveident that she fears what I will think...see...She is very attractive and I lack self confidence at times. So she is afraid to say "I fantasize about XYZ....because she is afraid I will think "I'm not good enough or some such.. . . . And I used to kinda be that way. She is 35 and me 29.... when we ment, 27/21 and she had been around the block a little more than I have in terms of raw numbers. And I let out that it bothered me a little because a girl I dated in college thought life was long, never ending porno movie. The problem is, she had no substance, no ambition where my wife is a magnificant woman. But I was gun shy. So while she felt used and abused by previous men in her life, I felt like I didn't want some one who's life revolved around sex. But it was flawed association on my part (to an extent) in that my ex's life centered on pleasing her desires(whether sexual, chemical, or otherwise) Liberal morality between the sheets was just a by product, or the substance she tried to use to fill the gaping hole in her soul. Okay, so my wife met me, a safe guy who treated her like a queen and we lived happily ever after. She may or may not have fantasies, but she has kept them down, deep down.....I have seen some pics of her ex's in old scrap books and I have my charms but they are very attractive men. I can kick all their asses with my eyes closed, but....(just kidding...I really can, but I wanted to see if you were paying attention) SO.....We have a lot of issues to work through to get to a point where we can start thinking about swinging. They are issues that are not important otherwise and I stress again, we have a magnificant relationship. All that being said (and its alot) I appreciate the friendly encouragement and more than that, I enjoy the frank and friendly atmosphere in here......