The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Future fiance would like me out of the lifestyle. I NEED YUR HELP!!!

Dr Jekyll · 10-31-2004, 04:54 PM

It's fairly simple, if you cannot give up the lifestyle in order to have her you'll never be the man she thinks she is getting married to. You'll both be living a lie, she believing you gave it up, but you hinting that you wouldn't mind getting back into the lifestyle. This will lead to trust issues since at some stage she'll start wondering if you ever really gave it up etc, etc...

You need to answer this one for yourself. Is she such a good match to you in every other aspect that giving up swinging will be easy, or will you battle with the thought of pursuing swinging vs staying loyal to your wife?

Like wr has said, don't go into the relationship thinking she'll change her mind. IF she does, it probably won't happen within years...

Good luck, I hope you make the right choice, whatever that may be...

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Dr Jekyll Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 113 Location: South-Africa Status: M. Male	Re: Future fiance would like me out of the lifestyle. I NEED YUR HELP!!! It's fairly simple, if you cannot give up the lifestyle in order to have her you'll never be the man she thinks she is getting married to. You'll both be living a lie, she believing you gave it up, but you hinting that you wouldn't mind getting back into the lifestyle. This will lead to trust issues since at some stage she'll start wondering if you ever really gave it up etc, etc... You need to answer this one for yourself. Is she such a good match to you in every other aspect that giving up swinging will be easy, or will you battle with the thought of pursuing swinging vs staying loyal to your wife? Like wr has said, don't go into the relationship thinking she'll change her mind. IF she does, it probably won't happen within years... Good luck, I hope you make the right choice, whatever that may be...