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littlebit54 · 10-27-2004, 08:36 PM

raylynne, performance anxiety is such a common problem that it's amazing any man can swing with another woman. It's also possible that this wouldn't happen if there weren't two men on the scene.

The bad part about it is that just thinking you might have it (at all) can be a trigger. Perhaps, starting with "soft swap" when it comes to another couple would help. When i say "soft swap" that could mean anything from same room sex with you and your hubby, and the other couple starting out without any contact with the other person; or it could be as simple as just kissing and fondling and taking it all really slowly. If there is no expectations of actually having sex with the other woman (at first) perhaps at a later date (or later that night) a full swap wouldn't be that much of a strain on your hubby.

Taking each step as a baby would might be the best way to go about it. I'm also sure that anyone who's been in a swapping situation will not be that surprised that your hubby might have a little nervousness about the first time. So, hopefully the couple you have chosen to do this "first" with will understand if there's any problems at all.

I hope this helped and that you let us all know how it goes.

littlebit54

10-27-2004, 08:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
littlebit54 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 579 Location: Louisiana Status: single female Swing Lifestyle Name:littlebit	Re: Help! Can't get it up with another woman?! raylynne, performance anxiety is such a common problem that it's amazing any man can swing with another woman. It's also possible that this wouldn't happen if there weren't two men on the scene. The bad part about it is that just thinking you might have it (at all) can be a trigger. Perhaps, starting with "soft swap" when it comes to another couple would help. When i say "soft swap" that could mean anything from same room sex with you and your hubby, and the other couple starting out without any contact with the other person; or it could be as simple as just kissing and fondling and taking it all really slowly. If there is no expectations of actually having sex with the other woman (at first) perhaps at a later date (or later that night) a full swap wouldn't be that much of a strain on your hubby. Taking each step as a baby would might be the best way to go about it. I'm also sure that anyone who's been in a swapping situation will not be that surprised that your hubby might have a little nervousness about the first time. So, hopefully the couple you have chosen to do this "first" with will understand if there's any problems at all. I hope this helped and that you let us all know how it goes. littlebit54
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