The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wife loves doing mfm, but is reluctant to talk about it

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-18-2004, 09:33 PM

My thoughts are along the same lines as Naked In Seattle's, that she is only doing this to please you. Just from reading your posts I can't help but wonder that and wonder if you aren't pushing her to do this.

You say that you aren't as turned on sexually if she won't talk about the group sex with you... that to me sounds like a HUGE RED FLAG. If you can't get turned on without thinking about it then something isn't right. My thought is that maybe YOU need to step back and re-examine what is going on and YOUR own reasons for wanting this. That's got to hurt her to think that you don't get turned on enough by her alone and that the only way you can really enjoy sex with her is if she's talking with you about including other people, don't ya think? Maybe she doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't want to start a fight with you by telling you that she doesn't really want to do it, or that she is upset to think that she isn't enough for you?

10-18-2004, 09:33 PM	#14 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Wife loves doing mfm, but is reluctant to talk about it My thoughts are along the same lines as Naked In Seattle's, that she is only doing this to please you. Just from reading your posts I can't help but wonder that and wonder if you aren't pushing her to do this. You say that you aren't as turned on sexually if she won't talk about the group sex with you... that to me sounds like a HUGE RED FLAG. If you can't get turned on without thinking about it then something isn't right. My thought is that maybe YOU need to step back and re-examine what is going on and YOUR own reasons for wanting this. That's got to hurt her to think that you don't get turned on enough by her alone and that the only way you can really enjoy sex with her is if she's talking with you about including other people, don't ya think? Maybe she doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't want to start a fight with you by telling you that she doesn't really want to do it, or that she is upset to think that she isn't enough for you?