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Originally Posted by somebodys_ex The one thing that makes a encounter even better for me, is knowing that I was able to arouse and bring pleasure to whomever I am with, male or female. I wonder if this woman's reaction was not so much that she felt "cheated" per se, but in actuality was disappointed and felt like she failed in her performance, or that she wasn't desirable enough for the men to be able to climax with her. If, for whatever reason, my partner just cant "get there" with me, for a few seconds I wonder if I did something wrong or in incorrectly. Its being human, your ego is always going to give you that momentary insecurity and its only the individual's inne rstrength that will help them |
My thoughts as well. When it's just me and my bf it's different... there are times when one or the other of us does not get off. But yes when with others, a large part of it for me is always about seeing someone else get off and knowing that I was somewhat responsible for that.
I know a lot of guys in swinging it seems will "save" their orgasm for the end of the night because they can only have one over the course of the night or they want to save it for their wife or for whatever reason, so I've gotten a little more used to it within the swinging world, but it still bugs me a little.