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Originally Posted by leftcoastcouple The fact that she has reached that point, but still can't completely leave the "good girl" who doesn't discuss sex (a common problem with expressing her wants/needs, too), isn't that surprising, I suppose. But it had never dawned on me--duh--until I read your post, Denver2some. ! |
Cool, Mr. LCC, glad I could be helpful.
Here is another thought I had, after reading the above. As I think you're pointing out above, expressing wants/needs in general (not just sexual ones) can be very difficult for some women. Part of the "good girl" doctrine at its most severe is to always think (and try to fulfill) of others' wants/needs and not your own. You are told if you dare express your own, you're being "selfish."
This has bred generations of ladies who even when asked outright about their desires, are just plain speechless.
This can be awfully tough for their husbands, who are left trying to play the mindreader! Surrender
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Originally Posted by leftcoastcouple I plead guilty of bringing it up too much, although--thick-headed male that I am--I can't understand how it could not be an exciting topic for anyone, if brought up with discretion. Because one thing's for sure: It's a definite way to get me going, and she knows that! |
I know what you mean. Mentioning the topic in the midst of foreplay can really get Mr. D2S going too.
However, and this could just be me personally (but I don't think so) ... if he brought it up almost every time we were intimate, I'd eventually start to wonder if little ole me weren't enough anymore.
And if I started to think that ... just the brief mention of it during sex would be an immediate turn off.
