The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Want to try DP, but not with hubby in my ass

F16AV8R · 10-16-2004, 02:59 AM

I'll try to keep this short, but we are in quite a dichotomy. Hubby and I have been married for nearly 11 years. I am deeply in love with him and we waited nearly four years while dating before having sex. Good thing too because if I had seen his penis before we were so much in love, I am not so sure we would have kept dating. His penis is circus big and it scared the hell out of me to think he eventually would want to put it in me. After a lot of conversation and explaining my fears, we finally did it. OH MY GOD, I thought I would die but he was very patient, slow and loving. We've been married 11 years now and have great kids and a super marriage. We atarted swinging with some close friends a few years ago but usually the husband of the other couple would politely back out once my husband's penis size became an issue The women usually joke about it and with patience, everything works out. Oddly, this issue bothers my husband and he is not one to get his self-esteem from his penis size. It has actually cost us some great friends and playmates. OK, I'll try to get to the point...So, we have finally met a single male who has become a close friend and I want us to share with. The three of us have discussed it and it looked as though all was a go. Here is the problem...I have never tried a DP and I think it would be fun. Hubby has never been in my ass because frankly I don't want to get hurt or suffer any damage. Afterall, if this lifestyle isn't fun and brings pain, then why do it. I want my husband to take me normally and allow our young stud friend to take me anally. Hubby is hurt by this and says he doesn't want another man to have me in a way he hasn't and I really don't want to allow. I do love my hubby and would love to experience that type of closeness with him, but the laws of physics still apply and there is no way I could accomodate him there. I'm sorry! It is still a challenge to have normal intercourse with him and a few shots of vodka always helps a little. So, do I forgo getting my DP? Do I try to talk hubby into allowing our friend to have something I do not give him? What do we do? It's kinda'' funny. Guys always either brag about or complain about their dick size. Truly, I would have preferred my husband had the average 7 or 8 inches.I know he would have been happier with that too. He lost out on several opportunities when we were in college and was considered an oddity. He was very shy and hated some of the nick names. However, I can't help who I fell in love with and if this is an issue we have to deal with, there are worse things. Still, I'd like to experience the DP with my husband but do not want to hurt him and in fact, he is right, another man will have been with me in a way he never will. How should I deal with this?

10-16-2004, 02:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
F16AV8R Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 41 Location: Florida	Want to try DP, but not with hubby in my ass I'll try to keep this short, but we are in quite a dichotomy. Hubby and I have been married for nearly 11 years. I am deeply in love with him and we waited nearly four years while dating before having sex. Good thing too because if I had seen his penis before we were so much in love, I am not so sure we would have kept dating. His penis is circus big and it scared the hell out of me to think he eventually would want to put it in me. After a lot of conversation and explaining my fears, we finally did it. OH MY GOD, I thought I would die but he was very patient, slow and loving. We've been married 11 years now and have great kids and a super marriage. We atarted swinging with some close friends a few years ago but usually the husband of the other couple would politely back out once my husband's penis size became an issue The women usually joke about it and with patience, everything works out. Oddly, this issue bothers my husband and he is not one to get his self-esteem from his penis size. It has actually cost us some great friends and playmates. OK, I'll try to get to the point...So, we have finally met a single male who has become a close friend and I want us to share with. The three of us have discussed it and it looked as though all was a go. Here is the problem...I have never tried a DP and I think it would be fun. Hubby has never been in my ass because frankly I don't want to get hurt or suffer any damage. Afterall, if this lifestyle isn't fun and brings pain, then why do it. I want my husband to take me normally and allow our young stud friend to take me anally. Hubby is hurt by this and says he doesn't want another man to have me in a way he hasn't and I really don't want to allow. I do love my hubby and would love to experience that type of closeness with him, but the laws of physics still apply and there is no way I could accomodate him there. I'm sorry! It is still a challenge to have normal intercourse with him and a few shots of vodka always helps a little. So, do I forgo getting my DP? Do I try to talk hubby into allowing our friend to have something I do not give him? What do we do? It's kinda'' funny. Guys always either brag about or complain about their dick size. Truly, I would have preferred my husband had the average 7 or 8 inches.I know he would have been happier with that too. He lost out on several opportunities when we were in college and was considered an oddity. He was very shy and hated some of the nick names. However, I can't help who I fell in love with and if this is an issue we have to deal with, there are worse things. Still, I'd like to experience the DP with my husband but do not want to hurt him and in fact, he is right, another man will have been with me in a way he never will. How should I deal with this?