Like Miss Piggy, I am not a good "storyteller." I have fantasies, but it's hard for me to talk about them in the vivid detail my hubby would prefer. The same is true when he asks me to tell him what I liked during our last swing session. I may have loved it, but I'm shy about going into the specific details of why. (And I'm not worried about hubby's ego ... he knows he's the best!)
So what I'm saying is this: it's not limited to your wife's culture. Often women in the US also have problems talking about sex, due to how we are raised. A girl is told millions of times in her life "be a good girl." And many of us are also told that sex is a naughty thing that should never be discussed. This is a very difficult hurdle to overcome.
Lastly, not every person likes having talk of swinging brought up during one-on-one lovemaking. It's possible, if you are bringing the topic up a lot that way, she feels the "swinging talk" is intruding upon the sanctity of your lovemaking as a couple.
I think SexHoundDog's advice has merit:
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Originally Posted by SexhoundDog Perhaps if you brought it up that you didn't want to do MFM's any more because you thought it made her feel so uncomfortable and you'd never want to do anything that made the love of your life feel that way, you'd get to the root of it. Make the statement and ask her if that's what she wants. If she says yes, I guess she's been doing it to please you. If she says no, then I can't imagine a better followup than "Well, then why don't you want to talk about it?" |
That seems a very good way to reintroduce the topic. Most importantly, it reinforces that she is #1 and swinging is #2. Women who are confident their spouse support their "Bad Girl" side often feel more free to be wild! (And revel in it facelick ) It may just take some time before it truly sinks in that her husband really loves his "Bad Girl" as much as he does his "Good Girl."
