The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wife loves doing mfm, but is reluctant to talk about it

SexhoundDog · 10-15-2004, 11:05 AM

Compersor,
Naked in Seattle has perhaps a very interesting take on this, as it does seem unusual to me also that she won't talk about it. However, if you throw in that she's from an Asian culture with old style ways of pleasing your man no matter what, maybe that helps her go wild when she's partaking.

But if you don't think that's the case and want to open dialogue, maybe a touch of reverse psychology might work, and hopefully the pros on the board will also respond. Perhaps if you brought it up that you didn't want to do MFM's any more because you thought it made her feel so uncomfortable and you'd never want to do anything that made the love of your life feel that way, you'd get to the root of it. Make the statement and ask her if that's what she wants. If she says yes, I guess she's been doing it to please you. If she says no, then I can't imagine a better followup than "Well, then why don't you want to talk about it?"

It could be a cultural thing where she knows MFM isn't the "norm", so maybe even if she likes it, she feels she shouldn't talk about it, I don't know. Good luck in your quest to get her to open up in discussions!

10-15-2004, 11:05 AM	#5 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Re: Wife loves doing mfm, but is reluctant to talk about it Compersor, Naked in Seattle has perhaps a very interesting take on this, as it does seem unusual to me also that she won't talk about it. However, if you throw in that she's from an Asian culture with old style ways of pleasing your man no matter what, maybe that helps her go wild when she's partaking. But if you don't think that's the case and want to open dialogue, maybe a touch of reverse psychology might work, and hopefully the pros on the board will also respond. Perhaps if you brought it up that you didn't want to do MFM's any more because you thought it made her feel so uncomfortable and you'd never want to do anything that made the love of your life feel that way, you'd get to the root of it. Make the statement and ask her if that's what she wants. If she says yes, I guess she's been doing it to please you. If she says no, then I can't imagine a better followup than "Well, then why don't you want to talk about it?" It could be a cultural thing where she knows MFM isn't the "norm", so maybe even if she likes it, she feels she shouldn't talk about it, I don't know. Good luck in your quest to get her to open up in discussions!