I've been around this site for years. I posted some stories and have enjoyed the forums. Really great site and really great webmistress!
What I'd like to know is just how many of you are here to live the lifestyle vicariously? I know there's got to be more of you like me.
Now I'm a perhaps a little luckier in the fact that my wife did swing with me on five occasions back in the late seventies and early eighties. In fact, with most of the couples, she obviously really enjoyed herself. But, for days and even weeks after each experience she'd be very remorseful. And, since I was on an erotic 'high' it was really difficult for me. I wanted to talk about the experiences, get horny reminiscing, and have sex even more often than we did. And, back then it was really often!
It was a real bummer for both of us.
I think that part of it might have been we were both very young and our relationship was also young. But I also know that part of it was the fact she just had some problems dealing with swinging. So, I had to simply keep my desires and fantasies inside.
About six years ago we got online for the first time and I found sites like this one. I also found erotic story sites and picture sites about swinging couples. I enjoyed the experiences that the folks were sharing.
Well, I guess it was inevitable, she found out about my visitations to these sites. We discussed it and she even read a few of the stories. And, to my surprise, she suggested that I write some. Now, she made it clear that she didn't want me to write about our experiences but, since I was a writer, why not post some myself.
I did, and she came alive again reading them. It opened up a dialogue between us that we'd never had in all the years of our marriage. We shared some secret fantasies and I was in heaven. We took a nice trip to Key West for Fantasy Fest..., cybered with some folks online and even exchanged explicit pictures with one couple. But, when we finally met that couple in person she sort of panicked and became so defensive that I was embarrassed for the other couple.
So, I guess that I'm just a swinger who's married to a non-swinger. I think the biggest let down in my life was having things coming back so great, then being so disappointed.
But, my marriage is really great except for that one (albeit large one) incompatibility. It would be nice to hear from other folks in the same predicament though. Maybe we could form a support group? LOL! Seriously though, it feels better just writing this and would be great to hear from others.
Thanks,
Rich