[Compersor]

Wow, my second problem in a week. As I said in my earlier post my wife and I have been mfm-ing for over a year. I mentioned the fact that she doesn’t care for the idea of my playing with another woman in her presence. What I didn’t mention – always hoping that one day it would get better – is the fact that it is very hard to involve her in any form of communication about the topic of threesomes. She seems to shun the subject. Also when we make love with each other, she doesn’t really like to talk about it, sort of shies away from it. That is a great shame, because talking about these things is a very important part of the communication process between spouses (or partners in general). It raises the level of intimacy (sexual and emotional) considerably. Let’s face it, it is a great aphrodisiac. And every time I try to broach the subject with her –whether during lovemaking or at other times – she will show reluctance to discuss it in any depth. This unfortunately for me is a turn-off. I just don’t feel the same level of arousal as I otherwise would. And that, in turn, has a negative knock-on effect on the frequency and intensity of our lovemaking. I have discussed this problem with her many times. But to no avail. It must be a cultural thing. My wife – who is from the Philippines – was brought up very conservatively. Let me tell you one thing though: once we do get into the sack with one of our gentleman friends, there is no holding her back. She loses all her inhibitions. When she does a guy, she is awesome, sparks fly. In other words, she really enjoys the threesome experience, once it gets underway. So why is she so reticent to talk about it? Any views on this? By the way I tell my wife very frequently how much I love and respect her, which I do.