The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Women, do you feel cheated if the guy does not orgasm?

bear_and_babe · 10-13-2004, 10:57 PM

First a quick background story-

We were at a club one night. And Bear and another male friend played with the same woman, at separate times. As it turns out, neither one of them had an orgasm with this woman. Not sure it they were “saving it for later” or weather they just could not cum. She however had several orgasms with the guys, both oral and during intercourse. Anyway, I was playing with this woman’s husband and he came about 4 times, seems that is normal for him. As everyone was coming back to the table to regroup, she was very upset and took her hubby off for a chat. Turns out she was upset that neither one of the guys had an orgasm with her. She felt cheated out of something.

So here is the question –

If you are with a guy and HE does not cum, do YOU feel cheated? Is it important that the guy have an orgasm with you, or is it more important that he had a good time, whether he cums or not?

I am just trying to understand why this woman was upset. I play with a single guy who never has an orgasm while he is playing. He says he has a great time just having sex and pleasing women. I have never gotten upset that he did not cum, but he did explain that it was nothing to do with me, that he just could not cum in a swing situation.

Any thoughts??

10-13-2004, 10:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
bear_and_babe Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 209 Location: PA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:bear_and_babe	Women, do you feel cheated if the guy does not orgasm? First a quick background story- We were at a club one night. And Bear and another male friend played with the same woman, at separate times. As it turns out, neither one of them had an orgasm with this woman. Not sure it they were “saving it for later” or weather they just could not cum. She however had several orgasms with the guys, both oral and during intercourse. Anyway, I was playing with this woman’s husband and he came about 4 times, seems that is normal for him. As everyone was coming back to the table to regroup, she was very upset and took her hubby off for a chat. Turns out she was upset that neither one of the guys had an orgasm with her. She felt cheated out of something. So here is the question – If you are with a guy and HE does not cum, do YOU feel cheated? Is it important that the guy have an orgasm with you, or is it more important that he had a good time, whether he cums or not? I am just trying to understand why this woman was upset. I play with a single guy who never has an orgasm while he is playing. He says he has a great time just having sex and pleasing women. I have never gotten upset that he did not cum, but he did explain that it was nothing to do with me, that he just could not cum in a swing situation. Any thoughts??