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hotblonde47 · 10-12-2004, 05:25 PM

When we first started out in "Lifestyles" we started with an MFM situation which hubby set up and I was very, very nervous about. We were lucky, it went so well it is ongoing. However, I was totally convinced that I could not (ever) handle hubby "having it off" (I'm English too) with another woman. I was terrified that I would not handle it well and put if off for as long as I could. However, I recognized that he felt like you, and it seemed all kind of one sided and selfish on my part so I (reluctantly) gave in. When it came down to it, in a foursome situation, I was amazed by my reaction. I was turned on by watching him - also, I was proud that my man was pleasuring another woman and yet he was all mine. Have your wife read this, she needs to be attracted to the male of the other couple too, but maybe she will be willing to "give it a go". If, after that, she is still not comfortable with it then you need to rethink your whole strategy and involvement. But really she won't know for sure until she tries it once.

10-12-2004, 05:25 PM	#15 (permalink)
hotblonde47 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 82 Location: North Carolina Status: couple	Re: wife ok with guys, but doesn't like hubby with women (same room) When we first started out in "Lifestyles" we started with an MFM situation which hubby set up and I was very, very nervous about. We were lucky, it went so well it is ongoing. However, I was totally convinced that I could not (ever) handle hubby "having it off" (I'm English too) with another woman. I was terrified that I would not handle it well and put if off for as long as I could. However, I recognized that he felt like you, and it seemed all kind of one sided and selfish on my part so I (reluctantly) gave in. When it came down to it, in a foursome situation, I was amazed by my reaction. I was turned on by watching him - also, I was proud that my man was pleasuring another woman and yet he was all mine. Have your wife read this, she needs to be attracted to the male of the other couple too, but maybe she will be willing to "give it a go". If, after that, she is still not comfortable with it then you need to rethink your whole strategy and involvement. But really she won't know for sure until she tries it once.