Hmm...I have a new one. Short bio for those who don't know...we're an early 50's couple...he's an experienced swinger and I'm a newbie. I'm a true bi and we've had some really nice threesomes and foursomes with other women and him and me. We had one nice encounter with another couple and all is/was well...we've met two others for dinner so far. We're members of a swinging site and I do most of the contacts. The problem I'm having is a total lack of attraction to 99% of the men. He goes ga-ga over a lot of the pictures of women (yeah, I know that photos certainly don't tell all and it takes meeting someone to see who they really are.) I'm not a shallow person and I look deep into the person's heart and soul to see who they really are...but...every couple I see on or offline makes me wonder. I've had no physical attraction to any of the men, although I'd count myself lucky to have them as friends (most of them). My hunny is ready and itching to get to most of the women...and I feel just plain cold toward getting involved with the men. I realize it would take my whole history to figure this out...believe me, I've analyzed and soul searched but can't quite figure out where my problem lies. I love my sweetie and am very excited by him sexually. I feel like I'd be just going along and faking it and possibly resenting that I have to do that. Has anyone experienced this, possibly in the beginning of their swinging days or do I need a shrink???!!! I'd really like to get past this so we can BOTH have fun...but so far, even on the internet, I can't get excited about any of them.
