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How important are looks to you when it comes to hooking up with a couple?
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Though it may sound shallow we view swinging as being all about sex and if someone is not physically attractive no amount of personality is going to make me want to have sex with them. On the other hand a physically attractive person with an unattractive personality is still and unattractive person. Like Mr&Mrs-naughty said, we ask for a pic soon after making contact. We don't have the time to spend chatting with someone there is absolutely no chance we are going to play with. When looking for single men we skip all profiles that do not have a pic and everyone that doen't meet the threshold.
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For those of you who have been in the lifestyle for a while, did your "pickiness" (if you had any to begin with) decrease as time goes on?
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We are different from most people here but our "pickiness" has actually increased the longer we have been in the lifestyle. I don't even remember the number of couples and single men we played with the first year (around 20). Both of us had been in sexually repressive marriages before and the thrill of being able to engage in multiple partner sex with spousal approval made us into "swing sluts". We would play with anyone that was not repulsive. After the newness of swinging wore off we began to get more selective in our playmates and would spend hours searching ads and profiles looking for someone. Now we have decided to restrict our playmates to people we meet in clubs.
When "shopping" online we tend to look for more attractive people. When we are at the club our standards lower as our "hornyness" increases. Its a bad way to say if but in the heat of the moment we (read I) will play with someone that I would not consider playing with if I thought about it for a couple of days.