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Originally Posted by Newbies46514 So why is it bad to 'jump right in' and why is separate rooms bad? And what is 'soft sing'?
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I know just in my own experiance the separate rooms was bad because the men were not as ready as they thought they were to share their wives and should have started with just soft swing to make it easier to move into the whole switching partners thing. They both experienced performance issues while in the separate rooms as well, however when we were in the same room there was no issue and everything went well.
It seems to be a matter of working your way into things slowly so you have a chance to work out any issues that may arise. The husband of the other couple thought he was mentally ready to swing (in fact we all thought he woudl be the one most suited to the lifestyle) but when it came down to it he had the most problems sharing his wife. We took a step back and did soft swing, first having sex with our own partner in the same room, the next time we played a bit with each other partners and then had sex with our own, and then went with a full swap, and by that time we were mentally able to handle it. I hope that helps a little bit.