 Re: Newbie Mistakes
When I first tried swing as a single man after my girlfriend moved out of state, I thought the same things I did to meet people at the club as part of a couple would work. Big mistake.
I went to a club two weeks after my girlfriend moved and three women who were all over me three weeks before actually laughed in my face when I tried to ask about their trip to Brazil. They said I was trying too hard and I was just trying to make conversation. Then I turned down a couple that were just too drunk for me to feel comfortable around them. They got me kicked out by making a scene. hmm...single man, couple, swing club, arguing...single man loses.
After a year of similar experiences at two more clubs (and over a thousand dollars wasted) I gave up the idea of swinging until lightning strikes again and I happen to meet a single woman already involved in the lifestyle and willing to let me into her world as well. Being myself didn't work, since they knew me as "BW's ex-boyfriend", not as Aaron.
I've given up on the idea of actually swinging since there are few, if any, people online interested in meeting a single man in my area and no clubs where I can go and introduce myself.
Doesn't mean I won't share what I've learned over the years.
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