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SadieSuhan · 09-11-2004, 02:12 AM

It was at his suggestion both times. Yes, we talked about it during sex, but we also talked outside of the bedroom. He was the one who always brought it up. It was never anything I had ever considered. Just never crossed my mind.

After the first time, we talked and he was OK with things. The other guy is a good friend and it didn't seem to harm their friendship. And yes, all three of us talked about the experience together.

Months later he suggested it again and after I was sure he was fine with it I agreed. But days later he said he felt pressured. Again, we talked and now (weeks later) he's fine. This has not harmed our marriage. Our friendship with the other guy is still the same as it always was. Nothing has changed. I'm glad for that. But I don't think we'll have anything more than a friendship with anyone after this.

I came here to see how others have dealt with feelings. It's a very helpful place! This weekend we'll be surfing through it together.

Thanks for the welcome and support!

09-11-2004, 02:12 AM	#15 (permalink)
SadieSuhan Registered Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Canada Status: Couple	Re: Wondering about MFM experiences. It was at his suggestion both times. Yes, we talked about it during sex, but we also talked outside of the bedroom. He was the one who always brought it up. It was never anything I had ever considered. Just never crossed my mind. After the first time, we talked and he was OK with things. The other guy is a good friend and it didn't seem to harm their friendship. And yes, all three of us talked about the experience together. Months later he suggested it again and after I was sure he was fine with it I agreed. But days later he said he felt pressured. Again, we talked and now (weeks later) he's fine. This has not harmed our marriage. Our friendship with the other guy is still the same as it always was. Nothing has changed. I'm glad for that. But I don't think we'll have anything more than a friendship with anyone after this. I came here to see how others have dealt with feelings. It's a very helpful place! This weekend we'll be surfing through it together. Thanks for the welcome and support!