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Old 09-10-2004, 12:14 AM   #12 (permalink)
Botcpl
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Join Date: May 2003
Posts: 249
Location: 34 N 11.120 118 W 17.179
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Default Re: Newbie Mistakes

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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321
Our first mistake: We told every person we met our REAL first names--
LM

I have to say that hit me like a brick. My first thought was: what else will you lie to me about? I always hear about communication and trust, but now I'm not so sure. I can understand not giving out too much, like last names and where we work or even the type of job sometimes (if I told you what I did, well there are only a half dozen or so of us even though my "company" has over five thousand employees....), but is this much caution really needed?

I can understand if you are from a small town, but since most of us live in metropolitan areas, is it really needed? Maybe this isn't the right place for this comment, but I don't know where else it should be. Usually I agree with what Likeminds321 says so you can see why I'm walking around with a big question mark on my forehead.

One reason I am (and we are) looking into swinging is so we don't have to lie. I don't want to lie to my wife and I (we) don't want to lie to the people I'm (we're) with.

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