Our mistake was probably the same as EvilMJ's. We thought we were going very slow - but when we actually went through with things, we obviously weren't ready. There is a big difference between going ahead slowly and going ahead wisely. The funny thing is - we didn't even swap... I am not sure how we could have gone slower, but maybe going through it was what we needed. We talked on a completely different level after that - and maybe that was meant to be.
Anyway - we are all happy now - and if anyone wants to put us to the test, I'll gladly forward our street address
Spoomonkey