#1: Being overeager to have our first experience. We took on the first decent guy who contacted us. Then, we got a room before we'd really decided we liked him. The sex was terrible for J. It took about a year for us to try again.
#2: Not trying clubs long ago. Ads really became frustrating. We couldn't meet anyone, or so it seemed and it was such a slow process. When the few real prospects didn't pan out, we were disappointed because of how much work it had been to get to that point. It's much simpler to just smile and say, "Hi, we're Brad and Janet!" to someone at the club. It works for us anyway.
-B