BiBlonde: "...So to you men......is there anything the woman could have done different to help with the situation?? thanks."
Hi BiBlonde,
Great topic to be revisited. I would have written sooner but have had to shop for lots of underwear lately...
It sounds as though you "understand" or have tried to understand as much as you could. You are right. When this happens you have to go to Plan B, or C. I have suggested to some that foreplay be longer but you seem to have that covered too.
Fem D had this happen like 3 times in a row with different guys. They were all apologetic and one SO wanted to get together again so her hubby could show her how he was a man, or something to that effect. She actually cried thinking it was her fault. Damn, she is beautiful--that's not
her problem. Then I thought of what a beauty she really is and thought that it had to be performance anxiety on the guys part. They did try some oral, etc. but she wanted to do the nasty and he didn't get it done. Then she blamed herself. I felt so bad and could only tell her that it wasn't her fault at all.
Just try to let the guy know that noone is expecting him to perform like it's his last time. Boy, that would really get you hard thinking that way, eh?
I'm sure you also have come to the conclusion that it is just a physiological response to something you can't control.
Good Luck Girl,
Male D