[SadieSuhan]

He was all for it before it happened the first time. But the morning after he had feelings of inadequacy. We talked and he said he felt like I liked sex better with the other guy. He said it was nothing I did or didn't do, it was just how he felt. I reassured him that sex with him was still ultimately is what I want. So, months later we tried it again with the same guy. This time he felt pressured (he says) and could not enjoy himself. But he says he still wants to include the other guy (same guy all times). He says since he's the only one I can put into my comfort zone it makes it easier. I would really like to continue this, but not if it makes him uncomfortable. He's said he wants to do things with me because I enjoy them. But if he's not happy then I'm not happy.

I'm hoping I can get him to come to the message boards here. It may help him to better express his feelings. I'm not alone in my first time/second time experience, am I?