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Originally Posted by shadyvirgin Third, someone please explain to me just what the fuck swinging is and why everyone is looking down their nose at me now. |
Swinging is the consensual and agreed upon choice of a couple to engage in sexual adventure with others.
You are talking about having sex behind your wife's back because she rebuffed your attempt to entice her into the lifestyle. AND further, you are already betraying the friend with whom you first discussed this by talking behind his back to his wife.
The big difference is this - my wife and I BOTH enjoy swinging. And if one of us did not, then neither of us would be involved. It's just that simple. Swinging can occur in the swirling muck of any kind of dysfuntion - but you will find that most of the happy, stable, mature swinging couples do what they do from the foundation of a strong and trusting relationship.
If you choose to cheat on your wife, you can call it swinging... Heck - you can even call it cricket, but it doesn't change what it is. The majority of the couples on this board fit perfectly into the definition that I have given and the idea of one spouse hurting another in the pursuit of their juvenile libido just never sits well.
Do a term search of the boards on the word cheater. You'd be surprised how consistent an opinion this is.
Spoomonkey
PS - sorry I have no Eminem to quote... But I'll work on that...