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Originally Posted by ophelia The therapy is his idea. |
Let me clarify here before my sweetie is over-vilified. I was being sent to the shrink for depression anyhoo (Yes, part of my depression stems from not being able to do this for my husband after having years to rap my brain around the idea); my husband simply suggested a "while you are there, how about working on some jealousy and self-esteem issues as well?"
As for why he just doesn't abandon the whole idea, he thinks it would be dishonest to tell me he would never think about it again. He is going to hold hope that one day I can enter the lifestyle. He says if I don't, then he will be content to remain monogamous; he doesn't NEED the lifestyle like he needs to keep his family. We do come first.
I just want to do this for him as he does so much for me. Does that make any sense?
As for the addiction, if I could find a way to change the addiction from an ON/Off switch to a dimmer switch, I wouldn't be so afraid of reverting to old, bad behaviors either.