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curiousagain · 08-25-2004, 08:07 PM

Whew!! A lot of good advice in the previous post. At the risk of sounding crude/straight forward, whatever. Does your man value swinging more than he values you and your marriage? If so I think therapy would be good for him. Swinging is something I do sometimes. It is not my life. I d*** sure wouldn't place it higher on the rungs of life's ladder than a good and stable marriage.

Maybe you do have jealously issues but I don't think that is the only reason you don't want to swing. I think y'all are going about this totally wrong for y'all. Maybe he figures once you "get started" you will enjoy it as much as him. But he risks losing everything and crushing you emotionally in the process if it doesn't work out that way, doesn't he? Life is full of risk and obviously he feels it is a risk he is willing to take.

But follow all the prior good advice. Don't, I repeat DON'T swing until you are ready and then do it only on terms and conditions you are comfortable with. No one is worth your self esteem, self worth, and self image. NO ONE

I hope everything works out for you both.

08-25-2004, 08:07 PM	#11 (permalink)
curiousagain A gentleman never tells Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 2,131 Location: Southeastern USA Status: half of a couple	Re: "Taking one for the Team"? Whew!! A lot of good advice in the previous post. At the risk of sounding crude/straight forward, whatever. Does your man value swinging more than he values you and your marriage? If so I think therapy would be good for him. Swinging is something I do sometimes. It is not my life. I d*** sure wouldn't place it higher on the rungs of life's ladder than a good and stable marriage. Maybe you do have jealously issues but I don't think that is the only reason you don't want to swing. I think y'all are going about this totally wrong for y'all. Maybe he figures once you "get started" you will enjoy it as much as him. But he risks losing everything and crushing you emotionally in the process if it doesn't work out that way, doesn't he? Life is full of risk and obviously he feels it is a risk he is willing to take. But follow all the prior good advice. Don't, I repeat DON'T swing until you are ready and then do it only on terms and conditions you are comfortable with. No one is worth your self esteem, self worth, and self image. NO ONE I hope everything works out for you both.