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Originally Posted by ophelia I feel like he is missing something important to him and I am standing in the way. |
Oh, sweetie...
*shaking my head*
This is an incredibly noble reason to look into the lifestyle and I applaude your open mind. But the only thing he seems to be missing - from what I have read - is the joys of having a confident, self-assured wife. Swinging is not some inalienable right that all men are born with - it is something that grows naturally (at best) from a marriage of two like minded people. It isn't something that he can want and you have to "go along with".
My wife
WANTS to swing... That's what makes it so hot... But I could never force her to - or guilt her into it. Because the bottom line is that if you go through with this, you are going to have to deal with the reality of some other woman touching your "perfect 10" while entertaining a man with whom you wish you weren't playing... Is there any amount of therapy that can really help you "deal with that"? Really, really search yourself for that answer...
As for jealousy - it is a valid emotion. It happens in all relationships when something we love is in danger of being taken away. Some in the lifestyle deal with that emotion to lesser degrees, but it is still there. That emotion is telling you that you can't handle sharing your mate with someone else -
AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!!
Listen to that emotion - it is your own soul's fair and unbiased opinion about the whole topic of swinging.
Spoomonkey