Thanks, ophelia, for coming back with a little more info. First off, that's great that you see him as a 10. I bet I wouldn't. Point being, when we love someone, we do tend to see them as 10's. He married you...I'm betting he see's you as a 10, also -- 20 pounds of left over baby fat or not. Give yourself some credit here, OK?
If you are going to counseling because
you think you need to go, again, that's great. It never hurts to work on self-esteem issues - we could all use a dose of that every now and then. But going to counseling just to get you geared up for swinging...it won't work. I don't care how high your self-esteem gets -- if you aren't happy with the idea of sharing your husband, it will only get deflated in short measure and all that work will be for naught. As for the jealousy, if you are the jealous type that might all wash out in the self-esteem building part of counseling. Then...after all that is done and said, you may want to start talking about swinging. But clear up all these other issues first. Otherwise, I'm afraid you'll find yourself feeling miserable.
As far as what he is wanting you to do...Vespertine really made an excellent point...worth repeating here....
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He married you. He didn't marry a swinger. He already made his choice.
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- EBF
