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He already has me going to a therapist to work on jealousy issues so that won't be a problem, but what else can I do?
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This statement really bothers me. First off therapy wont work unless you are doing it for YOU not him.
I agree with the others swining isnt for everyone. You should never ever do it unless you are doing it for you! Not to please him. If you arent sure then dont do it. We have meet the women who are dragged into this lifestyle...believe me you can tell in no time that they dont really want to be there. It totally isnt fair to you and not fair to put another couple in that possition. It always really pisses me off that a woman would do this just to please her man! It is time to stand up for yourself! If you dont want to play...say NO if he doesnt like it tuff sh....I hate to say it but no amount of therapy is going to make you comfy with swinging if it is truly something that you dont want to do. If you do it to make him happy, all you are doing is making yourself miserable. If he loves you and you are soul mates, then does he really want to make you so unhappy??? I am not trying to bash either one of you but ive seen this happen more than once and i really dont understand why someone would put themselves in that possition. I love my husband and i feel we are soul mates but believe me...if I didnt enjoy this lifestyle we wouldnt be doing it and he would drop the subject and that would be that. It is called respect for each other!
my 2 cents for the day