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ophelia · 08-25-2004, 03:32 PM

Thank you all in advance as I have been trying to deal with these issues alone and now I know where to go.

My husband is absolutely the most perfect mate for me on this planet. We think alike, finish sentences, and even understand a look from across the room. If two pople were ever soul-mates, it would be us.

Only one issue keeps us from complete, mutual understanding: Swinging.

He had a former girlfriend who introduced him to the lifestyle and his girlfriends since have joined the lifestyle with him. I have known about his attraction to swinging since the beginning and I honestly thought it would be something I could handle.

He discusses the subject in spurts; there are times he wants to play and times he is happy to just be home. He has finally told me he is ready to play. He knows I will do anything he asks, so we had made plans for a party this coming Saturday. I can't stop crying. I do not even begin to want anyone else and I am hurt that he does. Since he has experience here, he cacnelled our plans to attend since it is not a good idea to take one for the team. It hurts feelings all the way around.

So, here I am, wanting to make my husband happy (he was like a kid on Christmas Eve when he thought we were going) and I can't because the idea of anyone else touching me just doesn't turn me on and the thought of seeing him with another womn cuts the heart.

He already has me going to a therapist to work on jealousy issues so that won't be a problem, but what else can I do? Can I do anything to hurry this process along? He deserves my very best effort; I just don't know how to start.

08-25-2004, 03:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
ophelia Registered Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 7 Location: Texas	"Taking one for the Team"? Thank you all in advance as I have been trying to deal with these issues alone and now I know where to go. My husband is absolutely the most perfect mate for me on this planet. We think alike, finish sentences, and even understand a look from across the room. If two pople were ever soul-mates, it would be us. Only one issue keeps us from complete, mutual understanding: Swinging. He had a former girlfriend who introduced him to the lifestyle and his girlfriends since have joined the lifestyle with him. I have known about his attraction to swinging since the beginning and I honestly thought it would be something I could handle. He discusses the subject in spurts; there are times he wants to play and times he is happy to just be home. He has finally told me he is ready to play. He knows I will do anything he asks, so we had made plans for a party this coming Saturday. I can't stop crying. I do not even begin to want anyone else and I am hurt that he does. Since he has experience here, he cacnelled our plans to attend since it is not a good idea to take one for the team. It hurts feelings all the way around. So, here I am, wanting to make my husband happy (he was like a kid on Christmas Eve when he thought we were going) and I can't because the idea of anyone else touching me just doesn't turn me on and the thought of seeing him with another womn cuts the heart. He already has me going to a therapist to work on jealousy issues so that won't be a problem, but what else can I do? Can I do anything to hurry this process along? He deserves my very best effort; I just don't know how to start.