We are not newbies...nor are we very experienced...3 encounters in the last 2.5 years we've been doing this..so my comments may have no relavance..but here go's..... Communication...Honesty..Trust....and pace yourself! Those are the 4 things that seem most important to us. We talk all the time, very openly and honestly. We have had trust issues arise, but they are countered by the honest communication level we maintain....as far as pacing yourselves.....like the others have stated.....dont jump first, then ask how deep is the water on the way down
....we move real slow...we like to get to know the other folks in traditionaly settings before any neeked time takes place. This has, and will probably continue to limit our prospective playmates..
.but this lifestyle choice is for US anyway...and "US" only....what we are doing with the other couple is totally selfish..but.....(and a big "BUT" here)...the other couples we have played with feel the same way in regard to myself and Mrs. Artboy..This may not work for you, but is has worked great for us. Also..we are picky..not snobbish....just picky.....therefore the screening process is important. I mean lets be real...there ar some folks that live for this...there are some that the main goal on the first meeting is sex...and then those folks that "assume" things...we all know what assume means....for us though, we like to move slow, talk to um...trust um...discuss it with each other...then pehaps take the next step. We know this limits our playtime but really this approach has worked very well...for "US" anyway! soapbox