Hi All,
When we first started "playing" in SF, (looking for a MMF) after a few not so good stalker types...(who had nothing better than to call her at all hours and try to meet with her seperately.) We both considered a nice guy who flew in one a month (flight attendant). He was up front and told us right a away that he was married. This was a red flag at first so we put him at the end of the line, but as time went by and our other prospects turned out to be more and more slimey, we came back to him. He had been totally respectful and understanding even though we told him we weren't sure about the married thing.
We talked it over and decided to meet with him. At the time Cyn and I considered the fact that he would have more to protect than a single guy and would not try to "rock the boat". In hindsight we were both also very anxious to live out our fantasies (little cyn and vince were in the driver's seat!!!)
We all had a great time and met with him a few more times. We spent some time getting to know him personally and he confessed that he had been feeling exteremely guilty. After a long talk we all decided that it would be best to part company... Looking back it was not a very good decision (we both admit), but he did turn out to be a good guy who ended up telling his wife the truth... and opening up the lines of communication.
We both agreed that it was not worth the feeling 's of guilt... so no more after that. Cyn later admitted that in a twisted way the fantasy excited her a bit though being very sub.
Well hope this doesn't get too much flame Surrender ... just being honest... and we learned our lesson!
(in a side note his wife and him are now swingers- she was doing the same thing while he was away :rollseyes
Vince