If you read the board much you will find many discussions on this topic.
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Originally Posted by Avanti100 So how can a guy that does NOT have a willing mate get involved in the lifestyle. |
The short answer is, you don't, as the lifestyle is pretty much driven by couples.
Sure their are couples that will play with single males, but let's face it, single males are a dime a dozen so why would anyone play with somebody alone that is married? Here are a few thoughts that go through our mind when we are approached by a person without their spouse. Many guys have a sob story about how their wife isn't interested in sex with them and so forth, but in reality, we hear this and think, if the guys wife doesn't want to have sex with him why would mine? Additionally, as I stated before, with so many single guys available why would we want the added drama of a man with a wife at home? You will also find that the stability of the marriage is one of the most improtant things to most swingers, so the idea that we may be causing distress to a persons spouse, if they found out, is something that most of us want to avoid completely. By the way, this applies equally to maried women.
So you can see with these types of thoughts going through the minds of most swingers, getting into the lifestyle for a married guy whose wife is unwilling is pretty tough.