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frenzb4sex · 08-11-2004, 12:33 PM

Howdy 2gether...

Actually, what you are thinking is not weird at all, IMO. The couple that "broke us in" had this rule, because they felt that kissing was way more intimate and therefore more "lovey". At first, my wife and I struggled with it, because for us to have sex, kissing was part of the foreplay involved and very much a part of everything. As time went by, it was ok that we didn't, because we didn't really know any different swinging-wise.

However, as we explored with other couples, we found that we absolutely had to have kissing with others in order to truly enjoy the experience. So, therefore, our ads/profiles specifically state this preference. I believe you should do the same as far as needs/wants/preferences. It is an important thing to many people, just as much some time as safe sex or same room/separate. If you are honest up front and they know what they are getting before they even begin speaking with you, you reduce your risk of having problems with it significantly. Better than the alternative of not really being up front about it and then getting to the point of no return....

Tim

08-11-2004, 12:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
frenzb4sex Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 239 Location: Central Illinois Status: Male of Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:frenzb4sex	Re: No French kissing? Howdy 2gether... Actually, what you are thinking is not weird at all, IMO. The couple that "broke us in" had this rule, because they felt that kissing was way more intimate and therefore more "lovey". At first, my wife and I struggled with it, because for us to have sex, kissing was part of the foreplay involved and very much a part of everything. As time went by, it was ok that we didn't, because we didn't really know any different swinging-wise. However, as we explored with other couples, we found that we absolutely had to have kissing with others in order to truly enjoy the experience. So, therefore, our ads/profiles specifically state this preference. I believe you should do the same as far as needs/wants/preferences. It is an important thing to many people, just as much some time as safe sex or same room/separate. If you are honest up front and they know what they are getting before they even begin speaking with you, you reduce your risk of having problems with it significantly. Better than the alternative of not really being up front about it and then getting to the point of no return.... Tim __________________ "I can resist everything except for temptation..."