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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey Do you generally look for "top" playmates? |
Something like that. They find us. Since we're both shy and submissive and all. I'm working on pushing myself to be more assertive just to prove to myself that I can but I still really just prefer aggressive playmates. Zero question then about whether they are into it or not.
My wife sometimes will go into predator mode and just go after somebody at a (vanilla) party or something and like 20 minutes later POOF they're having sex. It's rare but wow it's pretty cool to watch. That's how she got me in the first place. We are normally very equal now, in every aspect of our marriage. Comes naturally from being with somebody who's opinion you respect as much as your own, but not more so.
Oh and as a guy who lives in a very very very gay area, all of this talk about 'tops' and 'bottoms' is kind of creeping me out! I have never heard those terms applied to straight sex. What's next, hanky codes for swingers?
Mr Spoomonkey, are you dominant with Mrs Spoomonkey about lots of things, or just sex? Like are you the one who decides what to have for dinner, what movies to see, what kind of car to get, all of that? My wife and I are both exceedingly dominant in every other aspect of our lives and in team situations in business or whatever we're both normally the leaders in the pack. Combined we're even stronger and we use our strength as a strong pair with complimentary skills to dominate our business niches. We're totally not shy about wrestling somebody to the ground in business and raping their money out of them. It's only in bed that we're pushovers.