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Originally Posted by lovemonkey#1 speaking from your experiences, is it just as hard to find someone to have same-room sex with you as it is to find some one to swap? in otherwords, are people more/less likely to get naked and play with their own partners if they feel that there is no pressure to swap from the other couple? |
I don't know for sure as I can only speak for us but I would say it is probably easier to find someone for full swap. As we are not into exhibitionism or voyeurism, we wouldn't be interested at all unless the possibility for full swap was their. That is not to say their aren't exhibitionists out their as I've seen plenty of them at the clubs. I would make sure that the couple you intend to meet knows this in advance though. It is important, especially if you aren't into what I would consider regular full swap swinging to make sure the other couple understands that from the beginning as no one likes to get all dressed up and meet someone only to find out the people they are meeting never intended to swing with them in the first place. This is not to be confused with meeting up with somebody and then deciding you are not compatible as that is a totally different thing.
We had one couple that we meet up with thinking by their responses to our questions that they were into swinging including full swap. Turns out, after having a few drinks and visiting with them for a couple of hours that they were not swingers at all but were voyeurs, when we explained that we were just into swapping, they said that they understood that but figured we wouldn't mind if they just sat and watched us have sex. We were not pleased at all and made a hasty exit.