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midnight hour · 08-08-2004, 01:15 PM

She actually thinks that if I stick my dick in another woman that I will lose my mind and forget my way home

Because we have been trained to think that way..or some of us has..and if you think really really hard..somewhere on your buddy list is someone who did that exact same thing...I can think of at least 10....course the whole issue of swinging was not there..but they forgot their way home and that sticks in your craw..especially if you think you are not the model type..and *you* the wife have the tendency to burden most of the child rearing/shopping/moral fabric that keeps a family together..lets face it..left to men few Christmas trees and lights would ever get out of the attic.
So it is a very real fear.
But talk and talk. The first time Mr. Midnight mentioned a threesome I said no and went on..did not interest me, he could talk about it all he wanted during sex, but as for going the jump, I was not ready. A few years later I was. Now we are going to the second hurdle..a full swap perhaps. I expect I will move no faster on this one either..I am a turtle sometimes very careful turtle.
Let me give you a little advice though, talk about it sometimes not all the time. Mr. Midnight has a habit of getting obsessed with something and does not realize it until I could scream. I actually have to tell him that it is just us in the bed tonite..he does not realize it, and it is not his fault. But it gets a little over bearing sometimes.
Go slow..very slow. You never know. I think it was a total surprise with Mr. Midnight when I finally did, and have did so several times.

midnight hour

08-08-2004, 01:15 PM	#40 (permalink)
midnight hour Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 154 Location: va Status: couple	Re: The seven year itch She actually thinks that if I stick my dick in another woman that I will lose my mind and forget my way home Because we have been trained to think that way..or some of us has..and if you think really really hard..somewhere on your buddy list is someone who did that exact same thing...I can think of at least 10....course the whole issue of swinging was not there..but they forgot their way home and that sticks in your craw..especially if you think you are not the model type..and you the wife have the tendency to burden most of the child rearing/shopping/moral fabric that keeps a family together..lets face it..left to men few Christmas trees and lights would ever get out of the attic. So it is a very real fear. But talk and talk. The first time Mr. Midnight mentioned a threesome I said no and went on..did not interest me, he could talk about it all he wanted during sex, but as for going the jump, I was not ready. A few years later I was. Now we are going to the second hurdle..a full swap perhaps. I expect I will move no faster on this one either..I am a turtle sometimes very careful turtle. Let me give you a little advice though, talk about it sometimes not all the time. Mr. Midnight has a habit of getting obsessed with something and does not realize it until I could scream. I actually have to tell him that it is just us in the bed tonite..he does not realize it, and it is not his fault. But it gets a little over bearing sometimes. Go slow..very slow. You never know. I think it was a total surprise with Mr. Midnight when I finally did, and have did so several times. midnight hour __________________ "Your mind is your only box, and only you hold the key to the locks."